"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.
"Explain what kind of relationship you want and why, defining what commitment means for you without giving an ultimatum." If he isn't open to a discussion, let him mull it over for a couple weeks.
But if he still doesn't respond when you bring it up again, it may be time to rethink the relationship.
It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand.
He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it.
Even if you're anxiously awaiting his call, you shouldn't be available every time he wants to see you.
"You want to create something worth investing in and make him realize your value," Trespicio says.In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities."Giving back to others shows your good heart and integrity, and although they may not consciously think that far in the future, men are subconsciously assessing maternal traits in a woman to see what kind of mother she'd be," Kelman says."The best type of date allows you to stop texting, put the phone down, and really foster a deep connection," Kelman says.Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.Make an effort to do these things on a regular basis, but also make sure you're showing your selfless side when you're with him.