Some of my best friends today are people I met on tumblr years ago.
There’s something about the structure and culture of the internet that makes it easy for me to open up to people, bond with them, and eventually take our relationships into the real world.
Here's what the professionals have to say about the ideal length of time to date.
Dating apps immediately seemed familiar, and not all that different from other ways to build relationships online. Ask an absurdly specific and slightly bizarre question about pop culture. This line was, without a doubt, my favorite way to start conversations on Tinder.
Hooking up with girls and connecting with other local queer people no longer seemed insurmountable. Don’t open with something generic or weak that isn’t going to prompt them to answer. (If you don’t care about pop culture, ask a specific and slightly bizarre question about something you do care about, duh.) It’s an easy way to see if you have similar interests, to talk about culture and art, and to have a fun back-and-forth before making plans to meet up. I’m not saying the following is an exhaustive list of every first message I sent,* but it does include the best. Far too many of my matches did not have an answer, but they always replied, because in a sea of “what’s ups” and “how are yous” and “heys,” my first stab at striking up conversation stood out.
Couples that dated for two years were 20 percent less likely to split.
If we can draw any conclusions from these studies, it would be that the couples who tended to hold off longer to marry ended up being the most satisfied in their marriages in the long-term and less likely to divorce.
If nothing else, this tactic at least led to some comedy. It is very important to be totally upfront with matches about your interests, even if those interests are slightly embarrassing or otherwise chip away at the very cool and sexy exterior of your Tinder profile.
There’s nothing wrong with being a little earnest and a little goofy.
Huston followed 168 newlywed couples over fourteen years and charted each couple's relationship satisfaction throughout.
Results showed that couples that had dated an average of twenty-five months before marriage were most happily married at the conclusion of the study.
But a lot of my friends have been getting married with fewer than this magical two years under their belts, and it's making me second-guess my rule. Does it really matter at all how long you date before you get married?